Study Reveals: Over 60s Still Value Intimacy and Sexual Activity in Relationships

Contrary to common stereotypes, adults over 60 continue to value sexual intimacy and romantic relationships, according to a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research.

The research highlights that the desire for physical connection does not diminish with age, challenging misconceptions about aging and sexuality. A key finding is that many older adults view a lack of intimacy as a significant barrier to fulfilling relationships.

Key Findings from the Study

The study, which surveyed 100 single individuals aged 60 to 83, found that:

• Almost three-quarters of participants stated they would not enter a relationship without sexual activity.
• Many described the absence of intimacy as a “deal breaker,” emphasizing its importance in defining romance.
• The average age of male participants was 65.6, while female participants averaged 66.8 years old.

Voices from the Study

“That would be a deal breaker. I’m still able to be intimate. So that would be a deal breaker. I mean, it might end up as a friendship instead of a relationship. Period.” — Dean, 68

“No, sex has to be part of your relationship. So, if you don’t want to have sex, then what’s the use of having a relationship? ... You can be friends without having sex. If you just want to be friends, that’s fine. But if you try to do a relationship, then sex has to be a part of it.” — Evelyn, 65

Expert Insights on Aging and Intimacy

Experts agree that while the desire for intimacy persists, older adults may face challenges in maintaining sexual activity.

Arien Muzacz, PhD, clinical associate professor of counseling at Oregon State University, noted, “Older adults who report sexual activity report greater overall well-being and life satisfaction.” Muzacz was not involved in the study.

Karyne Wilner, PsyD, licensed psychologist and author of Releasing Toxic Anger for Women, added, “Adults don’t become more asexual as they age; however, they may become less sexual, even though the desire for intimacy remains strong.” Wilner, who was also not involved in the study, explained, “Many in their 70s, 80s, 90s, and beyond feel desire and romance, but at the same time, they have more difficulties with sex.”

Breaking Stereotypes About Aging and Sexuality

The study’s findings aim to dispel myths about aging and sexuality, encouraging open discussions about sexual health among older adults. By emphasizing the ongoing importance of intimacy, researchers hope to foster better understanding and support for the emotional and physical needs of seniors.